To make ourselves look more “functional” or “appealing” to society, we women make origami out of ourselves . . . contorting our self-worth, will-powering through overwhelm, and “procrasti-working”…

(ex. keeping busy with emails, just to avoid working on a presentation)

…The problem is: this is designed to keep us producing, achieving and driving for results when there is no finish line.

What do I mean by there is no finish line? 

Societal/media’s message to us is to always be producing, achieving so we can be worthy, valuable and relevant in the world - or we’re defunct and have less value.

How do we opt out?

Sheer willpower, positive attitudes or podcast insights are not enough to get us out of this cycle so we can restore our self appreciation & worth. Especially when our brains are naturally designed to support our own micro aggressions of guilt & shame that we jab at ourselves every day of every week.

My work uses Money as a lens to explore concepts of self worth, empowered choice and inner freedom to heal that which keeps us stuck.

I help women, who despite doing “all the right things,” are feeling the defeat, the frustration and the struggle of chasing a sense of fulfillment, knowing their worth, and having “made it” on their terms. 

Why? 

Because the old school understandings of dealing with mindset blocks  (lack of self worth, not feeling good enough, constant need to prove our validity or diminished fulfillment) through willpower, “fake it until you make it,” reaching your potential, or “put your game face on” strategies - are actively working against us. 

I believe women are best served by not turning against themselves as another form of origami but rather get a fresh understanding of what is going on, reframe the experience and create belief patterns that better serve their creativity and self sovereignty. This site explores how we can do just that. 
I like to use Money to explore these topics… 

Because Money reveals “how good” we will allow ourselves to have life be. Money highlights our unconscious limit to happiness before we are compelled to sabotage our success. 
And Money reveals how much struggle we subconsciously believe we need to experience to be “deserving” of what we want.

Start with these pieces:  

Re-Work Your Money Story Instead of Working So Hard for Your Money

Women over 40, You Need a Game Plan for De-Repression

Now an on-demand training:

What if the pursuit of “Your Best Self” is debilitating your confidence, creativity and success by sending you the wrong message daily?

The problem with becoming Your Best You is what you are REALLY telling yourself underneath that, which has you to turn against yourself. This striving for our “fullest potential” shames us for not already being enough or worthy just as we are right now. This big lie we believe, actually works against our creativity, self-appreciation and prosperity. This training is about how to decondition ourselves from those beliefs that criticize us for not being “good enough” already.

Or take a deeper dive:  

The Money Story Edit course

Author your Money Story to work for you, instead of against you. 

Most of us unknowingly subscribe to beliefs like "you have to work hard to have money" or “success has to be earned” as if these are absolute truths. When you believe making money is hard, then your brain filters for opportunities that require struggle & limits your options. Your Money Story determines how easily or difficult you can have success, creativity and connection.
When you revise your story, you open yourself up to new opportunities of success, creativity, ease and prosperity. The Money Story Edit course upgrades these subconscious stories to conspire for your greatest good, instead of your biggest struggle. Are you ready to author your own Money Story on purpose versus keeping the one you inherited?

Your Wealthy Self Course

Having What’s Most Important to You…Without Struggle

True Wealth begins by having clarity of your purpose, knowing your worth & deserving by awakening from your trance beliefs, and allowing your unique voice to be heard by healing childhood wounds, and loving who you are enough to own your Divine Worth & Creational Authority.

From Here… Your Wealth, Abundance, Creativity & Success can Manifest externally with Ease.

Your Wealthy Self group coaching program shifts what is in the way to help you have Clarity of Purpose, increase your sense of Self Worth/Deserving, authentically Express Yourself and Love Who You Are, as you are…along with Expanding your Capacity for Wealth, Abundance, Creativity & Success.

Meet the founder:  

Hey — I’m Regina

I think Self Worth is the most underrated Superpower to you having what’s most important to you. 

We will not allow ourselves to have more than we think we deserve, especially subconsciously. 

And if we do end up getting more than we believe we are worthy of, then we will send it away, (over spend our money, exhaust our health, or blow-up our relationships). 

There’s a Happiness Set-Point where our subconscious beliefs limit us around money, happiness, love, self-appreciation, connection, etc. that we’ll allow ourselves to have.

These internal subconscious beliefs are there to protect us. They are well-meaning bumper car rails if you will, and for good intention. Yet we tend to spend a lot of our lives crashing into these rails head-on trying to get out into the larger world for a more expansive experience of love, money, self expression, creativity, and vitality. 

I first experienced this when I was asked the question “How good can you stand it?” How good can you stand your life getting before you feel the need to shut it down, and your insides start to constrict in anxiety or overwhelm? 

I could feel my optimism smash into that guard rail to happiness…”Ohhhh no! I thought I could have it all!” 

And part of me did believe that, and another part did not. See we all have contradictory beliefs about ourselves, the world and what we deserve. It’s just a matter of which of these parts has the most voting power? 

The part of me that was in charge of keeping me safe was my first experience of this. If I was too successful, too happy, too shiny in one way or another I’d become a target and others would want to take me down. In my experience being a target was never a safe place, hence the “limit Regina’s success” bumper rail was installed

A second bumper rail came from my family mantra of “you have to work hard to be successful.” I come from 5 generations of farmers, and started working at age 6 in the fields. Working hard was how I deserved any good fortune and kept my belonging to my family. This was abundantly clear when I’d get a windfall of money, it felt like it came too easily, so I had to spend it away quickly. 

Another bumper rail stemmed from my belief that I didn’t  deserve to have what I wanted. “Who am I to have it better than my family? Who am I to have it easier than my ancestors who struggled & sacrificed so much?” 
After sitting with that question of “How good can you stand it?” I saw how hard I worked to prove that I was worthy enough to have the things I most desired: love & connection, success, good health & happiness.

My level of self worth was having me work harder to feel worthy, and it wasn’t allowing me to have what I wanted…this really boxed in my options for abundance and happiness. 

I knew there had to be a better way, that was not only easier but more fun! 

I’d been reading self-help books since I was a teenager, coaching friends starting in college, worked on staff at Landmark Education, led seminars for Alison Armstrong, got a Master’s Degree in Change Management, became a Master Transformational-NLP practitioner and a certified Family Systems (Constellations) facilitator to find the inner peace and trust that I deeply craved.

During this journey, I realized there’s a foundational step that most modalities miss when they talk about changing your mindset. They approach these guard rails thinking that with enough willpower or an insight from a podcast or doing daily mantras these well-intended guard rails with shift. 

Yet these are top tier activities that work best once you’ve removed the childhood guard rails. When you have a majority of your parts voting for the same positive experiences, instead of at odds with each other, then these top tier activities can have more impact. 

Something to note: our guard rails get installed before we celebrate our 6th birthday. In the first 6 years of life (if not much sooner), we decide how much we deserve, how safe we are, how much love we are worthy of and how much space we can take up in the world….all fundamental factors to our self worth. 

If your childhood had upsets, was unstable or not what you preferred, then there are most likely safety locks on your ability to flourish with ease. And when we get too close to those safety locks the alarm bells go off (overwhelm, lack of clarity, struggle, anxiety, frustration, self sabotage, debt, etc.), calling us back to safety.

Revising these at the conscious level was never going to reach those safety guard rails of our wounded inner child, who’s crouched in the deep corner of our past. 

If you want to take the bumper car rails off and drive outside the lines, then it’s time to move the voting power over to what your adult, conscious self wants now in her life, versus what that 3 year old decided was safe to have. 

What if you could use your Self Worth for manifesting what you want, instead of having it create more struggle?

First for foundational support, you want to discover what that younger version of you decided about her deserving of love, worth, safety, and place in the world. 

Secondly for structural alignment notice how that previous, foundational decision created patterns and themes of upset, struggle, and anxiety, etc as an adult. This is when bringing in new resources for that younger self to support shifting the limiting beliefs - guard rails - is incredibly helpful. 

Lastly, focusing on what you want and how it’s manifesting in the world helps to integrate the shifts.  It’s imperative to work with the part of your brain that resists change in a way that it won’t reject the changes or the new beliefs you are installing. 

Expanding out the guard rails or removing the child safety locks in this way retrofits your foundational beliefs for who you are, allowing you to know the truth of who you are. 

Your Worth is Immeasurable and Eternal. You deserve to embody this. It is your Birthright. It’s your Superpower. 

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