Money Story Edit Course

1) Associations: There is an event during our childhood where we decide we are too much of something or not enough of something else. This creates an association between that feeling and who we are. It’s not cognitive, it’s two feelings that get collapsed together and our young brains interact with them as if they are the same. 

Example -  a young child screeches with excitement, then a parent yells at the child “you are too loud!” That child has the experience of being “too much” in that moment. Next, almost instantaneously, that child associates themselves with their parent’s upset of  them being “too loud/much,” and now these two experiences are linked. 

This “too much” association sets the foundational theme of their Story. 

2) Brain Filtering Loop: This linked association turns into a belief that the child’s brain will continually find evidence for to prove the belief is true. And the brain will filter out any contradictory information that proves that the child is not too much. Our brains are invested in being right. This increases our survival rate if our brains can successfully predict our experience, even if the belief the brain is providing evidence for is not true. 

This self-fulfilling filter constantly loops within the brain. The brain finds evidence that this child is too much, which supports their own beliefs about themselves, and that belief gets stronger within the child that they are too much, so their brain keeps finding more evidence as they grow up, and the child continues to have the experience that they are too much, even into adulthood. 

This self-fulfilling filter keeps our story in place as the “truth” of who we are. 

3) Money Story: When you have a self-fulfilling belief looping in your head of being “too much” for decades, you  don’t see it as a story, you relate to it as the truth of who you are. 

How this shows up in your Money Story…when you believe you are “too much” you might downplay your abilities, hide your success or pretzel your money to compensate for this. This is may not be conscious. Consciously you may want less debt and more success, yet your subconscious brain is trying to keep you from being “too much” and that can also mean being too successful, too visible in the world, too powerful, too outspoken, too certain or too smart, etc. 

This is where the symptoms of struggle, overwhelm, anxiety, debt, lack of clarity, limited self-appreciation, etc show up within ourselves and around our money. 

Good News! 

There is a way to revise the Associations that source the limiting beliefs that your brain has on a never-ending filtering loop. And when these beliefs are revised, then your brain can start to create a filtering loop for the new, updated beliefs that You author as an adult.